Being happy is definitely the hardest thing to find in the world, why? with all the things that has been happening around, specially in my country the Philippines I can say that it is so hard to say that “I am happy” or “we are happy”. This entry is a more personal story and experienced on how my life turns to be more happier when I got married.
I talked to my husband last night, and we were looking back those things that happened to our lives in the past, in the present and how would it be in the future. I asked him “why did you chose me as your wife that in fact I am not your first love?” my husband replied “you can never tell who my first love is, yes, you are not my first girlfriend, but do you think you are not my first love?” To my surprise I was telling him “ahhh hmmmm huh? is that true?” That made me realize that I am the first love of my husband and he is to me. You can never find so many love in the world, when he is the right one for you so he would then be your first love.
These cheesy things made our married life happier, those little talks that made us realize that though we are not rich but we are poured by so much happiness. I will share to you how we made each other happy.
1. Give time.
Most often we tend to forget anniversaries, birth dates and special dates because of our busy working schedules or any other events that’s been happening in the present. We should all remember that there’ll be no present if we don’t remember the past. Usually boys doesn’t care for these things, but I’m glad though my husband is not that very thoughtful he is still a good date companion ever. Eat your pride girls, I must say! Don’t be angry if your partner doesn’t remember your anniversary. Make the move saying like this ” Oh dear, it’s our 2nd year anniversary tomorrow, what should we do?” You are giving him a hint on what he should do on that day. I know that your thinking that it will be awkward, but this doesn’t make you less as a person. This will make both of you open to each other. Going to church, attending to parties and being with each other is the best time.
2. Give and Take.
Usually “us” girls wanted so much attentions from our partners, do not forget this idiom “It takes two to tango”. This is my point of view in a relationship, it will not work if only one will be so much of attention and the other one is always giving his. This is what usually happens in our house, I do not know how to cook great dishes, so my husband is the good cook. So in return I would do all the cleaning of the dishes and the food presentations will also be mine. My husband is very good in counting or in math particularly, but I’m much more good in financing,so that’s why we do grocery shopping together. I am the one in-charge of teaching lesson to our son, so he will be the one feeding him and changing clothes. We do laundry together, we do cleaning the house together. If it is his fault he must say sorry, if it’s mine I should do it. So this is why we should have the give-and-take relationship.
3. Silly Chats/Speak Up.
Never felt shy doing things like this. Silly chats make my day complete. Sometimes we talked about impossible things, at the end we keep on laughing about it. Be open also in sharing things you like and don’t, this may result to adjustment to both of you. So by these kind of conversation you are making a two-way process in your relationship. Faults, flaws and imperfections also is a good topic sometimes, I am not afraid of sharing to my husband that I’m not really into cooking though I am trying to do it. There are so many silly topics you may share to each other, promise after this you will feel open to your partner and arguments may lessen or it may in a good way.
So these are my top three (3) of how we made our married life happy. These are things that makes me happy. It’s plain and simple. I don’t know about yours, but you may share your stories also.